Every Pastor Needs a Pastor

Christian leaders are in trouble. And when the leaders are in trouble the Church is in trouble. Our culture, both inside and outside the church is grinding down Christian leaders.

The statistics should stop us in our tracks and examine what we are doing. According to City of Refuge ministry of First Baptist Church Woodstock, Georgia: Ministers are in trouble and their families are hurting…

  • 50% of pastors’ marriages will end in divorce
  • 1,000 Southern Baptist pastors experience forced resignations each year
  • 70% of pastors constantly fight depression man-depressed31
  • Almost 40% of pastors admitted to having an extra-marital affair since beginning their ministry
  • 50% of pastors are so discouraged they would leave the ministry if they could
  • 80% of pastors spouses wish their husbands would choose another profession

What if we were to offer Soul Care to ministers and their families early and often? When I was a boy my father, who was a pastor, had a man who worked for our denomination he considered his pastor. I’ll never forget the name, Wendell Grant. My father and mother respected and felt safe with Mr. Grant. I heard his name spoken with the reverence that comes from a life of impact on young ministers in our home. I believe we need to go back to finding pastors for our pastors. We all need a pastor who will ask hard questions and challenge our motives, values and ideas. We need a pastor who will hurt with us, listen to us, and pray with us. Every pastor needs a pastor for the health of their own souls and the souls of his or her spouse and families.

In the early 90’s on a large game preserve in South Africa the rangers began to notice that white rhinoceroses were being killed by much larger animals. Turns out the killers were adolescent bull elephants. These elephants had been orphaned and were left on the reserve to fend for themselves. In the wild, the males herd together and the older and much larger bulls keep the younger bulls in check. Without the older bulls to model adult elephant behavior and the gravitas to challenge the younger bulls—they were doing great damage.

I believe that many younger pastors needs an older pastor—a seasoned pastor, a tough old pastor, a scarred old bull—to come alongside them and “be” with them. This “being” would include praying with them, asking about their soul, inquiring about their families—and sometimes asking very hard questions about their private life. The wisdom that can only come from experience is missing in many younger pastors life. It would be important that these young “bulls” respect the older bull because they will challenge him and he has to be able to hold his own. He must be filled with grace to offer to a pastor who is hurting and at the same time he must be unflinchingly willing to speak truth into their lives.

How could this benefit the Kingdom? What if someone was willing to travel to meet with a pastor, listen to him, pray with him, believe in him, challenge him, and walk with him for years? What if there were retreats, seminars and other resources offered him and his wife specifically designed to care for their interior life? What if a pastor-to-pastor relationship was established so that if he needed to call someone in the middle of the night when he was tempted to look at an inappropriate website he felt safe to call his “pastor?”

Can you imagine the carnage that would be avoided? And what about the man who never fails morally, but who quits because he just too tired to go on? Or what about the man who settles for a sub-standard ministry of mediocrity because he is bored and lives an unchallenged life? What if someone was dedicated to caring for his soul?

Qualified Soul Care might keep a pastor from falling into moral failure so that a family and a church never fragment into a million pieces.  What if a pastor never had to tell his sons that their father has been unfaithful to their mother? What if a denominational leader never had to go to a devastated and betrayed church to mitigate the grief of a forced termination of a pastor?

How do you measure something that NEVER happened? It is likely incalculable.

It is time for soul-mentoring to be more highly valued than numerical success in the American church culture. If we don’t pay attention to the health of the souls of our younger leaders, we run the risk of waking up one day only to find one dead ministry after another littering our American landscape.

Christian leaders are at risk, but we are not a people without hope. We have the time-tested disciplines of the Church that are simply waiting to be re-introduced into a modern age.   I sense that the younger generations of pastors are very eager to learn from older leaders who value their souls, whether they know it now or not. We have the presence of the Holy Spirit, we have the energized dynamic of resurrection power, and we have wounded healers limping around who are willing to serve Jesus by serving pastors.

Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.  Proverbs 13:20. african-elephants-ivory-tusks-615

Old bulls walking with young bulls.

That’s me on the left.

 

 

 

 

About Joe Chambers

I am the beloved of the Most High God. I am an avid reader and writer and have been a continuous learner since my college studies in Ancient Literature and English. I live at the base of Mount Princeton in the Colorado Rockies with my wife of over three decades. I believe I have been put here to tell people that God is not mad at them and to show them the way Home. I am the father of three sons, a daughter-in-law and four grandchildren. I love to read, tell stories, and spend time in the wilderness with my friends and sons.
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4 Responses to Every Pastor Needs a Pastor

  1. Thanks. I spent nearly 3 hours w 3 pastors of various evangelical denominations today- all are hurting in one way or another. There is an advantage to serving in the same small town for nearly 23 years

  2. Mom says:

    There has always been a need for this type ministry but even more so in this culture. We are all being bombarded with ideas and temptations that were not even on the radar a generation or two ago. Who would have thought we would be trying to come to grips with the issue of same sex marriage, the regulation of “pot” and on it goes. This certainly is not your great grandfather’s world. They had their struggles too but they didn’t have internet, TV and a sex driven media with which to contend.

  3. Barry Bishop says:

    Great article, Joe. It makes me wonder if Satan’s strategy has always been to divide and conquer. Pastors need other pastors and especially a mentor. Even the great prophet Elijah despaired that he was alone (1Ki 18:22, 19:10, 18).

  4. eric says:

    I couldn’t think of anything more important than this struggling pastor issue. Take out the shepherds and the sheep scatter in the wrong direction. This could be devastating for Gods church. Lord rise up care pastors to help other pastors in caring for there souls. In Jesus name amen.

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